If you plan a trip to Japan, you’re in for an unforgettable experience! The stunning landscapes, rich history, and cutting-edge technology make it a dream destination for many. But let’s be honest: Japanese culture is also known for its unspoken rules, and if you’re not careful, you might accidentally come off as rude without even realizing it.
From bowing at the right angle to handling chopsticks properly, Japanese etiquette plays a huge role in daily life. It’s one of the key reasons Japan is known for its politeness, efficiency, and harmony. Japan’s polite and orderly society is one of the main reasons why so many travelers fall in love with the country. The good news? You don’t have to be an expert in all the customs. Knowing a few key rules can make a big difference in how locals perceive you.
While the locals generally forgive foreigners’ mistakes, following essential customs will earn you much respect. Learning about these traditions can enhance your travel experience, helping you connect more deeply with the culture. So, what should you watch out for? Should you tip at restaurants? How loud is too loud on public transportation? Is it okay to talk on your phone in cafes? What’s the proper way to exchange business cards?
That’s why I’ve compiled this list of 8 must-know Japanese etiquette tips for foreigners. Whether it’s dining manners, subway makes and don’ts, or shrine and temple rules, these essential cultural insights will help you avoid awkward situations and show respect to the locals.
Understanding Japanese customs isn’t just about avoiding embarrassment; it’s about immersing yourself in the culture and making your trip even more memorable. So, before you step off that plane and explore Japan’s incredible world of traditions, let’s go over the basics because a little effort goes a long way!
Japanese Etiquette #1: Greeting and Bowing
Bowing is a customary and significant way of communicating in Japan. It is a way of demonstrating respect, appreciation, regret, or greeting to someone. The degree and length of the bow vary depending on the circumstance and the connection between the individuals. Typically, the deeper and longer the bow, the more polite it is. However, foreigners are not expected to be able to perfect the subtleties of bowing, and in most cases, a simple nod or slight bow of the head will suffice. You can also include verbal greetings, such as “Konnichiwa” (hello) or “arigato gozaimasu” (thank you very much), when bowing.
Here are some instances of when bowing is required:
Greeting or saying goodbye to someone.
Expressing gratitude for a favor, a present, or a service.
Apologizing for an error, inconvenience, or trouble.
Entering or leaving someone’s house, a temple, a shrine, or a shop.
Presenting or receiving a business card.
Japanese Etiquette #2: Taking Off Shoes
In Japan, taking off your shoes before entering homes, temples, and certain restaurants is a sign of respect.
One of the most common aspects of Japanese culture is removing shoes when entering certain establishments, such as homes, temples, traditional inns, or restaurants. This custom is rooted in the desire to maintain the cleanliness and comfort of indoor spaces and demonstrate respect for the host or location. Visitors will typically find a designated area near the entrance where they can remove their shoes and use the slippers provided by the host.
It is essential to place one’s shoes neatly facing the door and refrain from wearing outdoor shoes inside or indoor slippers outside. Additionally, it is worth noting that different areas may require other slippers, such as bathroom or tatami slippers. Visitors should notice local cues or signs to switch their slippers accordingly.
Some examples of where to take off shoes are:
Entering a house, especially with a raised floor or a tatami mat.
Also, when entering a temple or a shrine, especially if there is a wooden floor or a carpet.
In addition, when you enter a traditional inn or a ryokan, especially if there is a tatami room or a futon bed.
Lastly, when entering some restaurants, especially if there is a tatami seating area or a low table.
Japanese Etiquette #3: Eating and Drinking
Adhering to dining etiquette, like not sticking chopsticks upright in rice, ensures respect in Japanese culture.
In Japan, specific manners and etiquette regarding eating and drinking should be followed. It is essential to avoid sticking your chopsticks upright in your rice, as this is considered rude and is associated with funeral rituals. Avoid passing your food from chopstick to another chopstick as this is also taboo, as it has death connotations. It is also impolite to point or gesture with your chopsticks or use them to skew or stab your food. When not using your chopsticks, place them on the chopstick rest or the edge of your plate.
When drinking alcohol, it is customary to pour drinks for each other rather than for yourself. It is a way of showing hospitality and friendship. After everyone has poured their drinks, make a toast with “kanpai” (cheers) before drinking. It is also essential to keep your glass from becoming empty, as this implies that you want more. If you do not wish to drink, politely decline by leaving your glass full or covering it with your hand.
When eating at a restaurant, it is proper to say “itadakimasu” (I gratefully receive) before starting your meal and “gochiso sama deshita” (thank you for the meal) after finishing your meal. These phrases express your appreciation for the food and the service. You can also show your gratitude by complimenting the chef or staff with “oishii” (delicious) or “umai” (tasty).
Japanese people don’t expect tips when paying bills. Tipping is considered rude and implies inadequate service or the staff requiring charity. Instead, spend the exact amount or round up to 100 yen. When leaving, it is also polite to say “arigato gozaimasu” (thank you very much) or “gochisosamadeshita” to the staff.
Japanese Etiquette #4: Visiting Temples and Shrines
Follow proper etiquette when visiting temples or shrines to show respect for Japanese religious customs.
If you plan to visit Japan’s beautiful and sacred temples and shrines, following some etiquette and manners is essential to show respect for the religion and culture. Here are some guidelines that you should keep in mind:
As you enter a temple or a shrine, you will typically find a purification fountain near the gate.
It is advisable to wash your hands and mouth before proceeding to the main hall.
You should use the spoon provided to scoop some water and rinse your left hand, then your right hand, then your mouth (spit the water into the drain, not the fountain), and then your left hand again.
Put the spoon back in its original position, and do not touch the water directly with your mouth or hands.
When you approach the main hall, you will see a large box or a rope with bells in front of the altar. It is where you can make a donation and pray.
To make an offering, throw a coin into the box or pull the cord to ring the bell, bow twice, clap your hands twice, make a wish or a prayer, and then bow again.
You should not take pictures, talk loudly in front of the altar, and do not touch or disturb any objects or decorations.
As you walk around the temple or the shrine, it is crucial to be mindful of your surroundings and avoid stepping on the border stones or the sacred ropes that mark the boundaries of the holy space.
It is also essential not to touch or climb on the statues, lanterns, torii gates, or other structures.
Additionally, you should not eat or drink inside the temple or the shrine. Do not bring pets or animals.
It is best to be quiet and respectful and fully immerse yourself in the atmosphere and the architecture.
Japanese Etiquette #5: Public Transportation
Public transportation in Japan requires orderly behavior, including lining up and keeping noise levels low.
Japan has a highly efficient and convenient public transportation system, encompassing trains, buses, subways, and taxis. However, observing proper etiquette and manners is crucial in ensuring a smooth and enjoyable ride for yourself and your fellow passengers. Here are some guidelines to follow:
Queue up neatly and orderly behind marked lines or signs while waiting for a train or bus. Avoid pushing or cutting in line, and allow passengers to disembark before boarding. Listen to the staff instructions or announcements and refrain from blocking doors or aisles.
Keep noise levels to a minimum when riding a train or bus to avoid disturbing other passengers. Please turn off or silence your mobile phone, avoiding its use for calls or music. Refrain from eating or drinking, and ensure no trash is left behind. Do not occupy more than one seat, and offer your heart to older people, pregnant women, people with disabilities, or children.
Opening or closing taxi doors is not advisable, as the driver will take care of it. Avoid smoking or eating inside the cab, and take extra caution to avoid damaging equipment. You can inform the driver of your destination by providing an address, landmark, or map. If necessary, request a receipt and pay the exact fare or round up your payment to 100 yen; tipping is not customary.
Japanese Etiquette #6: Shopping and Souvenirs
A lively shopping street in Japan, combining traditional and modern elements, offering unique souvenirs and local goods for visitors.
If you shop in Japan, you should adhere to several customs and protocols. Japan offers a variety of shopping options, from traditional markets and crafts to modern malls and electronics. You can find numerous unique and high-quality products that make excellent souvenirs for yourself, friends, and family. However, there are certain etiquette and manners that you should follow when shopping in Japan. Here are some guidelines to keep in mind:
Upon entering a shop, staff will usually greet you with a warm “irasshaimase” (welcome) or “Konnichiwa” (hello). You can respond with a smile or a nod or ignore it if you are uninterested. Do not feel obliged to purchase anything, nor attempt to bargain or haggle, since the prices are typically fixed.
When browsing or buying a product, avoid touching or handling it roughly, as this can damage or soil it. If you want to try or test something, ask for permission from the staff. Taking pictures or videos without authorization may infringe upon the shop’s or product’s privacy or intellectual property rights.
You typically see a small tray or basket on the counter when paying for a product. It is where you should place your money or card rather than handing it directly to the staff. It is done to avoid any physical contact or confusion. You will receive your change and receipt on the tray or basket. When leaving, you can also express your gratitude to the staff by saying “arigato gozaimasu” (thank you very much).
Japanese Etiquette #7: Garbage Disposal
Clean streets and parks in Japan: Carrying your trash until the proper disposal point.
Japan is a spotless and tidy country, and the people take pride in keeping their environment and public spaces neat and orderly. However, Japan also has a strict and complex garbage disposal system, which requires careful sorting and separation of different types of waste. Some tips on how to dispose of your garbage correctly in Japan are as follows;
When staying at a hotel, an apartment, or a house, you will usually find separate bins or bags for different kinds of garbage, such as burnable, non-burnable, recyclable, or plastic. Follow the instructions or the labels on the containers or backpacks, and do not mix or contaminate the garbage. If you need more time, ask the staff or the host for help.
When going out, you will notice only a few public trash cans or bins on the streets or parks. Because Japanese people usually carry their garbage with them until they find a proper place to dispose of it, such as a convenience store, a train station, or a vending machine. Do not litter or leave your garbage behind. Also, do not use the wrong bin or bag for your trash.
When visiting a convenience store, a supermarket, or a department store, you will often receive a plastic bag for your purchases. However, you can also bring your reusable bag or decline the plastic bag if you do not need it. It is to reduce the amount of plastic waste and to protect the environment. You can also return the plastic bottles or cans you bought from the store to the designated machines or bins and receive a small refund or a coupon.
Japanese Etiquette #8: Gift Giving and Receiving
Gift-giving in Japan is a cultural gesture that requires attention to detail and etiquette.
In Japan, gift-giving and receiving are customary practices with significant cultural value, especially on special occasions like weddings, birthdays, holidays, and visits. Gifts are a way of expressing appreciation, respect, friendship, or apology to someone. However, in Japan, people must follow certain etiquette and manners when giving or receiving gifts. Some essential guidelines are as follows:
Avoid expensive, personal, or controversial gifts. Instead, opt for local specialties, souvenirs, sweets, fruits, flowers, or stationery. Avoid giving gifts such as scissors, knives, clocks, potted plants, or white flowers, as they carry negative or unlucky connotations in Japan.
Use colorful and cheerful wrapping paper or cloth, and avoid plain or dark colors like black, white, or blue. You can decorate the gift with ribbons, stickers, or cards. Avoid recycling or reusing paper or cloth, as it may convey a lack of regard for the recipient.
When giving or receiving a gift, use both hands to offer or accept it on a table or tray. It is impolite to hand it over directly. Open the facility only if the giver insists or requests you—this avoids embarrassment or disappointment if the gift is not suitable or satisfactory. To show modesty and humility, you can say “tsumaranai mono desu ga” (this is a trivial thing, but) when giving a gift or “osore irimasu” (I am unworthy) when receiving a gift.
These are some of the essential etiquette and manners to remember in Japan. While there are many other details and variations to be aware of, following these tips will ensure a respectful and enjoyable experience in this beautiful country.
Do you know any other Japanese etiquette and manners we should understand as foreigners living and working in Japan? Let us know in the comment below. Thanks for joining us today! Voila! Until next time!
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Arlene Tangcangco-Dochi
Arlene Tangcangco, Ph.D. candidate (タンカンコ道地ア-リ-ン) also known as Teacher AL, is a learner and teacher at heart. Driven by curiosity, she has explored various fields since she was 17. She was a working student who held multiple jobs as a Tutor, Customer Service, and Sales Associate while studying full-time. After graduation, she worked as a Junior Radio Reporter, Team Leader, HR Recruitment and Training Officer, College Instructor, and Permanent Public Secondary School Teacher.
She has also jetted off to Japan to teach conversational, business, and academic English to various learners while furthering her education. AL's motto is "Learn to teach, and teach to learn." She believes education is a lifelong process that enriches one's mind, heart, and soul.