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How Do You Outsmart A Toxic Friend?

How do you spot and avoid toxic friends? Friendship is one of the most precious gifts in life. Having good friends can make you happier, healthier, and more fulfilled. But not all friends are good for you. Some friends can be toxic, meaning they drain your energy, manipulate, disrespect, or take advantage of you. Toxic friends can harm your mental and emotional well-being and physical health.

So, how do you spot and avoid poisonous friends? Below are some signs, tips, and advice to help you:

Signs of a Toxic Friend

Toxic friends can exhibit various behaviors and traits that indicate their toxicity. Some of the common signs are:

Selfish and manipulative. Toxic friends only care about their needs and interests and use you for their benefit. They may lie, cheat, or guilt-trip to get what they want from you.
Jealous and competitive. Toxic friends cannot stand your success or happiness. Usually, they may try to sabotage or undermine the people around them. In addition, they may even criticize, mock, or belittle you to make themselves feel superior or better.
Pessimistic. Toxic friends always complain, whine, or gossip about everything and everyone. They spread negativity and drama wherever they go. They may also discourage you from pursuing your dreams or goals.

Disrespectful and abusive. In addition, such kinds of friends do not respect your boundaries, opinions, or feelings. Not only insult, humiliate, or bully you in private or public but may physically or emotionally harm or threaten you to do so.
It needs to be more reliable and trustworthy. They do not keep promises, commitments, or agreements. They may cancel plans at the last minute, show up late, or not at all. Also, betray your trust by lying, stealing, or spreading rumors.

Tips to Avoid Toxic Friends

Toxic friends can be hard to avoid because they may appear friendly, charming, or helpful initially. They may also use different tactics to keep you hooked or trapped in the friendship, such as flattery, favors, apologies, or promises. However, you can take some steps to protect yourself from toxic friends and their influence.

Be aware and alert. Firstly, you should recognize the signs of toxic friends and trust your intuition. If you feel uncomfortable, uneasy, or unhappy around someone, you should listen to your gut feeling and avoid them.
Trust your gut. Secondly, listen to your intuition if you feel anxious, uncomfortable, or unhappy around someone. Your body and mind are telling you that something is wrong.
Set boundaries. Thirdly, be clear about what you want and don’t want in a friendship. Say no to things that don’t serve or don’t make you feel good. Don’t let anyone pressure you to do something you don’t want. You should establish clear and firm boundaries with toxic friends and communicate with them. Do not tolerate or accept their unacceptable behavior or demands. As much as possible, limit your contact and interaction with them.

Communicate assertively. Fourthly, express your feelings, thoughts, and needs respectfully and honestly. Don’t let anyone disrespect you or invalidate you. Stand up for yourself and your rights.
Seek support. Then, talk to someone you trust about your situation. Ask for advice or help if you need it. Surround yourself with positive and supportive people who care about and respect you. Do not deal with toxic friends alone. Seek support and help from other friends, family members, or professionals who can offer advice, comfort, or assistance. As much as possible, surround yourself with positive and supportive people who can uplift and inspire you.
Cut ties if necessary and move on. Finally, if a friend is toxic and doesn’t change their behavior after you have tried to communicate with them, it may be time to end the friendship. You deserve better than someone who hurts you or brings you down. Do not be afraid to end it if it is causing you too much stress, pain, or harm. Importantly, please do not feel guilty or obligated to stay in it out of loyalty, pity, or fear.

Advice to Deal with Toxic Friends

This type of friend can be challenging because they may need to respect your boundaries, listen to feedback, or change their behavior. Also, they may react negatively or aggressively when we confront or distance ourselves from them. However, we can still deal with toxic friends respectfully and assertively.

Be honest and direct. First, do not tell your toxic friends how you feel about their behavior and how it affects you. Use “I” statements and avoid blaming or accusing them. We should also express our expectations and consequences for the friendship. For example, we can say, “I feel hurt and angry when you talk behind my back. I expect you to stop doing that, or I will not be your friend anymore.”
Be calm and confident. Next, do not let them intimidate or manipulate you. Remain calm when you deal with them. Do not raise your voice, lose your temper, or show fear or weakness. Also, stand up for yourself and defend your rights and dignity. You can say, “I respect your opinion, but I disagree. I have the right to my choices and live my life.”
Be firm and consistent. Then, do not give in or back down to toxic friends. Stick to your boundaries, limits, and decisions. Do not let them persuade or pressure you to do something you don’t want or don’t feel comfortable doing. Follow through with your consequences if they violate your boundaries or expectations. For instance, you can say, “I told you I don’t want to talk to you anymore. Please stop calling me; otherwise, I will block your number.”

Advice to Heal from Toxic Friends

Forgive yourself. Don’t blame yourself for having a toxic friend or staying in a toxic friendship. You did the best you could with what you knew at the time. Learn from the experience and move on.
Forgive them (if possible). Don’t hold on to anger, resentment, or bitterness towards your toxic friend. It will only hurt you more in the long run. Try to understand why they acted the way they did and let go of the past.
Focus on yourself. Do things that make you happy, healthy, and fulfilled. Pursue your passions, hobbies, and interests.
Make new friends. Find people who share your values, interests, and goals. Join groups, clubs, or communities that align with your purpose and vision. Be open to meeting new people and forming new connections.

Remember these self-affirmations: “I am worthy of love, respect, and happiness.” “I have the power to choose who I want in my life and who I don’t want in my life.”

You can spot and avoid toxic friends by being aware of the signs, setting boundaries, communicating assertively, seeking support, and cutting ties if necessary. Moreover, you can heal from toxic friends by forgiving yourself, forgiving them (if possible), focusing on yourself, and making new friends. On top of that, you can have healthy, fulfilling, and lasting friendships by being honest, supportive, and respectful. You deserve the best!

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