What are the signs that you are with the right person?
Hey, do you want to talk about something interesting? How about the 8 Signs you are with the right person according to God’s word? You know, choosing a life partner is a huge deal. But how can you tell if you are with the right one? How can you be sure that your relationship is making God happy and following His plan?
The Bible is the ultimate basis of understanding and direction for every aspect of life, including marriage. God has given us His Word to show us what true love looks like and how to build a healthy and lasting relationship with someone who shares our faith and values. Let us talk about the eight signs that you are with the right person according to God’s Word:
You both love God more than anything else.
The first and greatest commandment is to love God with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength (Mark 12:30). Our relationship with God is the most significant thing in our life, and nothing else can take His place.
If you are with the right person, you both love God more than anything else, and you will have a solid foundation for your relationship. In addition, you seek to honor Him in everything you do and support each other in your spiritual growth.
A few examples are spending time together reading the Bible, praying, worshiping, and serving in the church. Also, encouraging each other to follow God’s will and obey His commands are good signs.
Share the same core beliefs and values.
The Bible warns us not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14). It means that we should not enter into a close relationship with someone who does not share our faith in Jesus Christ. It is because our beliefs affect our worldviews, morals, decisions, and actions. If we are not on the same page spiritually, we will face conflicts, confusion, and compromise in our relationship. However, more than sharing the same faith is required. We should share the same core beliefs and values based on God’s Word.
For example, you agree on essential doctrines like salvation, the Trinity, the authority of Scripture, etc. You also see eye to eye on practical matters like marriage roles, finances, parenting, etc. Having the same core beliefs and values will help you to have unity, harmony, and direction in your relationship.
Respect and honor each other.
Remember, the Bible teaches us to respect and honor everyone as people created in God’s image (1 Peter 2:17). This is especially true for our romantic partner, brother or sister in Christ. Respect and honor mean treating each other with kindness, dignity, courtesy, and consideration.
If you are with the right one, you do not belittle, criticize, manipulate, or abuse each other verbally, emotionally, physically, or sexually. Also, you value each other’s opinions, feelings, preferences, and boundaries.
Communicate honestly and openly.
Moreover, the Bible tells us to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15). It shows when we communicate honestly and openly with each other without hiding or lying. We express our thoughts, feelings, needs, and expectations respectfully. Also, as partners, we listen attentively and empathetically to our partner’s words.
Sometimes, some couples would slide everything, thinking the other would just forget, but this should not be the case. If you are the right one for that person or that person is the right one for you, you would not ignore issues that need to be addressed by letting the day pass. When dealing with the problem, do not use harsh or hurtful words that tear down or damage your relationship. In other words, use words that build up and edify your partnership.
Trust and forgive each other.
Do you know (Proverbs 3:5)? it teaches us to trust the Lord with all our hearts. It means relying on God’s faithfulness, goodness, and sovereignty in every situation. Thus, we should trust our partner as someone who loves us and wants the best for us and should not doubt or question their motives or intentions. The right partner does not accuse or suspect the other of wrongdoing without evidence and does not let fear or insecurity control the relationship.
Forgive one another as God has forgiven us (Ephesians 4:32). The right one does not hold grudges or resentment against the partner when they hurt or offend or vice versa. Also, do not seek revenge or retaliation for the mistakes committed. If you are with the right one, they will not bring up your past failures or use them against you.
Serve and sacrifice for each other.
True love is not selfish but selfless (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). It is not about getting what we want but the joy of giving what we have. Similarly, it is not about demanding our rights but fulfilling one’s responsibilities. Hence, if it is the right love, you are happy satisfying each other’s desires and meeting each other’s needs.
Jesus is the perfect example of selfless love. He came not to be served but to serve and give His life as a ransom for many (Mark 10:45). Also, He laid down His life for us and calls us to do the same for each other (John 15:12-13). Thus, the right love serves and sacrifices for their better half in big and small ways. If we truly love someone, we put their interests above our own. Additionally, we do not insist on our way but seek to please, especially in our relationship with them.
Enjoy and appreciate each other.
God created us for His glory and pleasure (Isaiah 43:7; Revelation 4:11) (Genesis 2:18; Proverbs 5:18-19). Therefore, He wants us to enjoy and appreciate the gift of our partner, who is wonderfully made in His image (Psalm 139:14).
It means that if it is the right love, you enjoy and appreciate each other’s personality, character, talents, hobbies, interests, and passions. Also, you share common goals and dreams and celebrate each other’s achievements as you express gratitude and praise for each other. Importantly, you do not neglect or take each other for granted.
Help and inspire each other.
God has a purpose and plans for each of us (Jeremiah 29:11). He has given us gifts and talents to use for His glory and the good of others (1 Peter 4:10-11). Also, He has given us a partner who can help and inspire us to fulfill our God-given potential.
It means if you are with the right one, you help and inspire each other to grow spiritually, mentally, emotionally, physically, and socially. It is not a one-way thing, meaning it should be a give-and-take relationship (which is also true with friendships and other relationships). You also study God’s Word and worship Him together as you encourage and challenge each other to follow God’s will and obey His commands. Moreover, you support and cheer each other on in pursuing your passions and goals and do not hinder or discourage each other from becoming who God created you to be.
These are some signs that you are with the right person according to God’s Word. Of course, no one is perfect, and no relationship is flawless. But if you see these signs in your partner, you can be confident that you have found someone who loves you with godly love and is committed to building a Christ-centered relationship.
If you are still looking for the right person, don’t settle for less than God’s best for you. Pray and trust God to lead you to the one He has prepared for you. Seek His kingdom and righteousness first; He will add everything else to you (Matthew 6:33). May God bless you with a partner who will love you as Christ loves the church and who will help you fulfill your destiny in Him.
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